Give me some sunshine,
Cause I want to see..
Give me some flowers,
Cause I want to breath..
Give me some music,
Cause I want to play...
Give me some wine,
Cause I want to taste...
Give me that forgotten hug,
Cause I want to, be alive again..
Friday, January 29, 2010
Saturday, January 16, 2010
Coercive Persuasion
The term Coercive Persuasion or mind-control refers to a process in which a group or individual systematically uses unethically manipulative methods to persuade others to conform to the wishes of the manipulator.
Well, the level of brutality depicted by the definition makes the term seem way too scary and out-of-bounds than it actually is. If we take out a little time to peep into our own selves, we all find this quality of "manipulation" within. The amounts might differ but we all would be proud owners of this quality. To clear the dust, think of a kid who can hardly speak yet, if he wants something he cries. And if you are observant enough, I am sure you would have noticed the cry is usually just vocal, lacking tears. This doesn't mean he is some super-intelligent mind-player who'd grow to be the next Hitler if not admitted to some really costly school. Its not that the child is not as pure at heart as he should be, its just common observation of the kid that a "cry" attracts more attention. And inherently all humans like attention, conclusions drawn from any infant's behavior.
This was the most basic form of the mind-games that humans play. Yes, we could say ki "Hum ye maa k peet se seekhke aae hai!" But this doesn't really die out here. It goes a long way! A daughter always knows how to act cute and get her dad buy her that huge soft-toy. A boy always knows how to grumble and get that G.I.Joe figure in the toy store. This is a very common behavior and cannot be pronounced wrong because in this case, the parents know that its a act being played by the kid to get his/her wish fulfilled and out of love they do get cowed by it.
The introduction to ugliness in mind-games comes in when a teenager gets into a relationship or may be just has a crush. To portray yourself to be text-book nice, to act like you like what he/she likes is somewhere a method to make the other one believe that "I am the ONE." Things could get ugly in this region but, lets avoid talking about bitching, back biting and gossip! ;)
Its been a very interesting debate as to who is a better manipulator, men or women? Its said that all the lack of muscle power in women is compensated by their skills.I would again prefer to leave this on the imagination and domain knowledge of the one reading this blog to define skills! lolz.. But in no way are men more decent or heavenly! Once a girl is true and genuine, there are a lot of disgusting mind-players out there to break their trust and change them into manipulators like themselves. In corporate offices you'll find a herd of such people irrespective of their gender!
Coercive persuasion is encountered basically in every part of our lives, may it be in our office, at home, within friends, practically everywhere. The magnitude might be different but there is no escape from it.
The game shall be played, you could be a pawn or the player! The choice is yours!
Well, the level of brutality depicted by the definition makes the term seem way too scary and out-of-bounds than it actually is. If we take out a little time to peep into our own selves, we all find this quality of "manipulation" within. The amounts might differ but we all would be proud owners of this quality. To clear the dust, think of a kid who can hardly speak yet, if he wants something he cries. And if you are observant enough, I am sure you would have noticed the cry is usually just vocal, lacking tears. This doesn't mean he is some super-intelligent mind-player who'd grow to be the next Hitler if not admitted to some really costly school. Its not that the child is not as pure at heart as he should be, its just common observation of the kid that a "cry" attracts more attention. And inherently all humans like attention, conclusions drawn from any infant's behavior.
This was the most basic form of the mind-games that humans play. Yes, we could say ki "Hum ye maa k peet se seekhke aae hai!" But this doesn't really die out here. It goes a long way! A daughter always knows how to act cute and get her dad buy her that huge soft-toy. A boy always knows how to grumble and get that G.I.Joe figure in the toy store. This is a very common behavior and cannot be pronounced wrong because in this case, the parents know that its a act being played by the kid to get his/her wish fulfilled and out of love they do get cowed by it.
The introduction to ugliness in mind-games comes in when a teenager gets into a relationship or may be just has a crush. To portray yourself to be text-book nice, to act like you like what he/she likes is somewhere a method to make the other one believe that "I am the ONE." Things could get ugly in this region but, lets avoid talking about bitching, back biting and gossip! ;)
Its been a very interesting debate as to who is a better manipulator, men or women? Its said that all the lack of muscle power in women is compensated by their skills.I would again prefer to leave this on the imagination and domain knowledge of the one reading this blog to define skills! lolz.. But in no way are men more decent or heavenly! Once a girl is true and genuine, there are a lot of disgusting mind-players out there to break their trust and change them into manipulators like themselves. In corporate offices you'll find a herd of such people irrespective of their gender!
Coercive persuasion is encountered basically in every part of our lives, may it be in our office, at home, within friends, practically everywhere. The magnitude might be different but there is no escape from it.
The game shall be played, you could be a pawn or the player! The choice is yours!
Monday, January 4, 2010
Moving ahead, looking backwards
Bidding adieu to the past year is a unavoidable tradition which is dependent on how prepared are we to welcome the future. Some of us just have fun and let it pass, some take pledges and try and stick to them in the coming year, and there are some who look back, take decisions and prepare themselves for a better future.
I wish to try the latter for a change. All these years I was the one who just had fun and let time pass without really thinking too much about 'changing' or 'self evaluation' or any other boring adjective present in the English dictionary. But 2009 has been a very unique experience. Saw a lot of new things, tried a lot of stuff, had fun, had my sad moments, I laughed as hard as I never did and I have cried my heart out at times. I dont think my life ever saw so many different emotions in any previous years.
So before I move on, I would like to thank everyone around me for they have helped me shape myself, thank everyone who have influenced me. Our personality is not decided by our sun-signs! Its our experiences and the kind of decisions we make which define us. So, all the people around me who have directly or indirectly given me shape for me being the person I am today, I sincerely thank everyone. I hereby intend to forgive everyone whom I was angry/unhappy/disappointed with and move on. In the end I would say I'd do the most difficult thing a person can do, I forgive myself.
I forgive myself for all the wrongs I've done in the past year. I forgive myself for being a jerk at times. I forgive myself to think senseless stuff and acting immature. I forgive myself for not forgiving people I should have. I forgive myself for trying to be someone I am not. And I promise myself that I would grow from this point on, to be a better man.
Love...
I wish to try the latter for a change. All these years I was the one who just had fun and let time pass without really thinking too much about 'changing' or 'self evaluation' or any other boring adjective present in the English dictionary. But 2009 has been a very unique experience. Saw a lot of new things, tried a lot of stuff, had fun, had my sad moments, I laughed as hard as I never did and I have cried my heart out at times. I dont think my life ever saw so many different emotions in any previous years.
So before I move on, I would like to thank everyone around me for they have helped me shape myself, thank everyone who have influenced me. Our personality is not decided by our sun-signs! Its our experiences and the kind of decisions we make which define us. So, all the people around me who have directly or indirectly given me shape for me being the person I am today, I sincerely thank everyone. I hereby intend to forgive everyone whom I was angry/unhappy/disappointed with and move on. In the end I would say I'd do the most difficult thing a person can do, I forgive myself.
I forgive myself for all the wrongs I've done in the past year. I forgive myself for being a jerk at times. I forgive myself to think senseless stuff and acting immature. I forgive myself for not forgiving people I should have. I forgive myself for trying to be someone I am not. And I promise myself that I would grow from this point on, to be a better man.
Love...
Sunday, December 27, 2009
How stupid can people get
1. I am super pissed right now. At myself and at a few people around me.
2. I don't like the fact that I cannot undo what is already done.
3. I don't like it that it would be named "interfering" unless I am asked for advice or help and the fact that I wasn't.
4. I don't belive how stupid people can get!
5. I dont wish to write anymore.
2. I don't like the fact that I cannot undo what is already done.
3. I don't like it that it would be named "interfering" unless I am asked for advice or help and the fact that I wasn't.
4. I don't belive how stupid people can get!
5. I dont wish to write anymore.
Tuesday, December 22, 2009
I wish
I wish I wouldn't let you hurt me as much as you do,
I wish I knew what your actions point to.
I wish I could analyze you better, before being nice to you,
I wish your words would parellel to what you do.
I wish I was a tree,
emotionless, giving away whatever I had, with no regret,
I wish I never felt the way I do,
for someone who didn't deserve it? I wish I could escape all the fret!
I wish I knew if it was me who was wrong,
Or was it you who wasn't strong?
I wish I knew who is more confused,
Because at the end, I am the one who feels abused.
I wish I could withdraw,
I wish I wouldn't have seen you the way I saw.
I wish someday you value people a little more,
Some day you would become what I believed you were.
I wish I knew what your actions point to.
I wish I could analyze you better, before being nice to you,
I wish your words would parellel to what you do.
I wish I was a tree,
emotionless, giving away whatever I had, with no regret,
I wish I never felt the way I do,
for someone who didn't deserve it? I wish I could escape all the fret!
I wish I knew if it was me who was wrong,
Or was it you who wasn't strong?
I wish I knew who is more confused,
Because at the end, I am the one who feels abused.
I wish I could withdraw,
I wish I wouldn't have seen you the way I saw.
I wish someday you value people a little more,
Some day you would become what I believed you were.
Monday, December 14, 2009
TODAY
I started this blog in July after reading one of my friend's and getting inspired by it! Today I realize that looking at my posts I can actually see which months in the year were the most eventful for me! lolz.. Like September! I wrote 4 posts in it! :)
I dont simply write a post! I write it when I want to share something with my blog. My blog is like my buddy who understands me and knows me better than anyone else. And my life is eventful enough that I manage a post every month! So, thats good news! :D
Someone told me once, "Unplanned events carry an element of surprise and excitement and surprisingly are more successful than the contrary!" Well, how true! When we plan we by convention take a lot of parameters for granted, increasing the possibility of our plans to CHANGE! On the other hand, spontaneity brings an unfamiliar joy! A sense of excitement, which at times is necessary! And there is this other kind of surprise, which is not so pleasant. And this is the most difficult to deal with.
I was a little upset a few days back cause someone gave me very bluntly a reason as to why watching a movie with me could be embarrassing! Being the movie lover I am, it was quiet a setback! lolz.. And as a butterfly effect, a lot of things around me seemed shady to me. In fact I actually planned a few quick movies to boost my moral! :)
There are things we never expect would come our way and so, when they do, we don't really know how to react to them. The first and the most common reaction is to deny the possibility of the happening, that is we question its existence altogether. "Really??........ mmm.... I dont think so!!" Which definitely doesn't work. Second, we try to make up for it. Its always better to move to the second activity directly but then we cannot be expected to behave THAT sensible! Noone can. If you are thinking you are able enough to, then, :P :P :P to you! lolz..
Its said that "change is pre-requisite for growth", well I'd say, " Change itself, is a part of growth." And so I dont see any harm in changing myself with time and bending myself to the personality I actually want myself to carry.
Well this month is turning out to be eventful alright! But I hope the series of events don't get ugly by the end of the year! :)
I dont simply write a post! I write it when I want to share something with my blog. My blog is like my buddy who understands me and knows me better than anyone else. And my life is eventful enough that I manage a post every month! So, thats good news! :D
Someone told me once, "Unplanned events carry an element of surprise and excitement and surprisingly are more successful than the contrary!" Well, how true! When we plan we by convention take a lot of parameters for granted, increasing the possibility of our plans to CHANGE! On the other hand, spontaneity brings an unfamiliar joy! A sense of excitement, which at times is necessary! And there is this other kind of surprise, which is not so pleasant. And this is the most difficult to deal with.
I was a little upset a few days back cause someone gave me very bluntly a reason as to why watching a movie with me could be embarrassing! Being the movie lover I am, it was quiet a setback! lolz.. And as a butterfly effect, a lot of things around me seemed shady to me. In fact I actually planned a few quick movies to boost my moral! :)
There are things we never expect would come our way and so, when they do, we don't really know how to react to them. The first and the most common reaction is to deny the possibility of the happening, that is we question its existence altogether. "Really??........ mmm.... I dont think so!!" Which definitely doesn't work. Second, we try to make up for it. Its always better to move to the second activity directly but then we cannot be expected to behave THAT sensible! Noone can. If you are thinking you are able enough to, then, :P :P :P to you! lolz..
Its said that "change is pre-requisite for growth", well I'd say, " Change itself, is a part of growth." And so I dont see any harm in changing myself with time and bending myself to the personality I actually want myself to carry.
Well this month is turning out to be eventful alright! But I hope the series of events don't get ugly by the end of the year! :)
Yeahhh... I wanna end the year like this.... happily... SCOOOBYYYY DOOOBYYY DOOOOOO!!!! :)
Sunday, December 13, 2009
Half short double-Reloaded!
First things first, I really like this title-"Half Short Double" and I have my own reasons of liking it. One, its originally mine! Two, I used it in a post which I wrote when I was really low and I felt better after writing it. Three, I couldnt have been better in choosing this title.(why?? Its TOP SECRET).
"Today" I am using this title again cause once more history repeated itself and I stand at a crossing similar to one I stood at then. The circumstances aren't really the same but they do remind me of past events. As tradition.. I choose the title of my blogs as the state of my mind at that point. The blog may or may not reveal the whats and whys about the title. :) But this blog was worthy of a slight hint fot its title.
Anyways, I have a lot in my tiny little head as usual. I have given CAT, the grand daddy of all MBA entrances. It went pretty decent. Apart from a few things I wish I shouldnt have done in those 2 hours, I think everything went decently well. And by far I haven't been thinking of the kind of score I might get. 22nd Jan is the big day! And I voulentarily will behave unperturbed till it arrives. For now, I have other exams to look forward to.
JMET is tomorrow. MBA in IITs! I am not really sure about it cause IIT prefers work ex people. But I am still giving it a try. Next in line are SNAP(Simbiosys), XAT(Xaviers') and NMAT(Narseemonji, Mumbai).
Apart from exams and MBA my head also carries a little something about AIESEC. My co-Aiesecers are having their LC Day right now. I am still a little unsure as to if I should go there tomorrow after my exam. Most probably I won't and I know later I'll hear a lot of "U missed it" and "U should have come".. but its ok.. I have my own stupid set of reasons to refrain from it.
A new development in me is that I have somehow learnt to be a little rude! Its surprising and I am not happy happy about it but I've managed to find a few instances when I was kinda rude! I have always believed that a little of everything is really important to be complete. Like a little-one would never understand why its wrong to not try and play with the candle-fire unless he burns his finger. The point is, its important to try out everything and then you would find yourself on a better platform to analyze and decide as what you are and what you want to be!
There are times in life when you are afraid of facing situations or rather you wish that that situation would never arise, but it does. Then is the time you take a decision to face it or turn your back on it. I have never turned my back on any situation as of yet and I don't intend to either. But there certainly are situations which I too wish would never arise. Its ironical that the things bound to happen are sometimes so scary! Like the 22nd of Jan! Like 2012! [:P] And the "something" to which this para is dedicated to. I don't know what I would do when I reach that point on the timeline which is moving fast and not showing any signs of mercy.
Name: Dhruv Mathur
Age: 20
Status: Single
State of mind: Uncertain
FIN.
"Today" I am using this title again cause once more history repeated itself and I stand at a crossing similar to one I stood at then. The circumstances aren't really the same but they do remind me of past events. As tradition.. I choose the title of my blogs as the state of my mind at that point. The blog may or may not reveal the whats and whys about the title. :) But this blog was worthy of a slight hint fot its title.
Anyways, I have a lot in my tiny little head as usual. I have given CAT, the grand daddy of all MBA entrances. It went pretty decent. Apart from a few things I wish I shouldnt have done in those 2 hours, I think everything went decently well. And by far I haven't been thinking of the kind of score I might get. 22nd Jan is the big day! And I voulentarily will behave unperturbed till it arrives. For now, I have other exams to look forward to.
JMET is tomorrow. MBA in IITs! I am not really sure about it cause IIT prefers work ex people. But I am still giving it a try. Next in line are SNAP(Simbiosys), XAT(Xaviers') and NMAT(Narseemonji, Mumbai).
Apart from exams and MBA my head also carries a little something about AIESEC. My co-Aiesecers are having their LC Day right now. I am still a little unsure as to if I should go there tomorrow after my exam. Most probably I won't and I know later I'll hear a lot of "U missed it" and "U should have come".. but its ok.. I have my own stupid set of reasons to refrain from it.
A new development in me is that I have somehow learnt to be a little rude! Its surprising and I am not happy happy about it but I've managed to find a few instances when I was kinda rude! I have always believed that a little of everything is really important to be complete. Like a little-one would never understand why its wrong to not try and play with the candle-fire unless he burns his finger. The point is, its important to try out everything and then you would find yourself on a better platform to analyze and decide as what you are and what you want to be!
There are times in life when you are afraid of facing situations or rather you wish that that situation would never arise, but it does. Then is the time you take a decision to face it or turn your back on it. I have never turned my back on any situation as of yet and I don't intend to either. But there certainly are situations which I too wish would never arise. Its ironical that the things bound to happen are sometimes so scary! Like the 22nd of Jan! Like 2012! [:P] And the "something" to which this para is dedicated to. I don't know what I would do when I reach that point on the timeline which is moving fast and not showing any signs of mercy.
Name: Dhruv Mathur
Age: 20
Status: Single
State of mind: Uncertain
FIN.
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